Thursday, 30 June 2011

Natural Balance

Nature knows no right or wrong only balance or imbalance

~ Professor Hollis Walker


And it doesn’t care, methinks.

To create real possibility, notions of things being right, wrong, good or bad hinder the process, whereas asking the question: “Does this work or not work?” creates a clear steer. However, balance is always the access to true possibility.

As Landmark Education say “You can’t have Break-Through without Break Down”

source Criminal Minds series 6 episode 12 Corazon

Wednesday, 29 June 2011

Think Outside The Box

Prompted by a facebook posting, today:

“I don't Think Outside The Box ~ I Think Like There's NO Box!”

I get the sentiment but it made me think.

I don’t know who came up with the expression and forgive if I misconstrue their intention but ….
…….we are the boxes!

This may be male thinking, particularly as the Facebook post had come from a woman.

You will see what I mean if you watch Mark Gungor’s video: Tale of Two Brains


women multitask naturally and so the possibility of a box existing is less likely, whereas men compartmentalise.
However, if we go inside and create limits for ourselves we also create the box that eventually we cannot think outside of.

If we see our experience as something bigger than ourselves then our thinking is outside of the (our) box.

Just saying

Sunday, 26 June 2011

Age is Wisdom

A young boy had just gotten his driver's license and inquired of his father if they could discuss his use of the car.

His father said he'd make a deal with his son. "You bring your grades up from a C to a B average, study your Bible a little, get your hair cut and we'll talk about the car"
The boy thought about that for a moment, decided he'd settle for the offer and they agreed on it.

After about six weeks his father said, "Son, I've been real proud. You brought your grades up and I've observed that you have been studying your Bible, but I'm real disappointed you haven't gotten your hair cut"

The young man paused a moment then said, "You know, Dad, I've been thinking about that, and I've noticed in my studies of the Bible that Samson had long hair, John the Baptist had long hair, Moses had long hair and there's even a strong argument that Jesus had long hair."

To this his father replied, "Did you also notice they all walked everywhere they went?"
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Wednesday, 22 June 2011

A Beginner’s Guide to Klout

Who do you influence and who influences you and what are we influencing each other about?

In this article taken from “Measuring Online Influence”Megan Berry explains what is about, why it matters and how Klout measures influence and then how Klout can benefit you as a user.

She says "Think of it as a social credit score that will increasingly impact your life."

read the article at the Official Klout Blog

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So what is Klout and why does it matter? Klout measures influence across the social web. We assign a Klout Score from 1 to 100 based on your ability to drive action. We also find your most influential topics, your influencers, who you influence, as well as other stats surrounding your influence. Think of it as a social credit score that will increasingly impact your life.........

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Monday, 20 June 2011

Pleasing Everybody


There was an old man, a boy, and a donkey. They were going to town and it was decided that the boy should ride.

As they went along they passed some people who thought that it was a shame for the boy to ride and the old man to walk. The old man and boy decided that maybe the critics were right, so they changed positions.

Later, they passed some more people who thought that it was a real shame for that man to make such a small boy walk. The two decided that maybe they both should walk.

Soon they passed some more people who thought that it was stupid to walk when they had a donkey to ride. The man and the boy decided maybe the critics were right so, they decided that they both should ride.

They soon passed other people who thought that it was a shame to put such a load on a poor little animal. The old man and the boy decided that maybe the critics were right, so they decided to carry the donkey.

As they crossed a bridge they lost their grip on the animal and he fell into the river and drowned.

The moral of the story: If you try to please everyone, you will eventually lose your ass.

Ain’t that the truth!

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Saturday, 18 June 2011

Community of Power

“There must be, not a balance of power, but a community of power; not organized rivalries, but an organized peace”
~ Woodrow Wilson

Thomas Woodrow Wilson

CaptureBorn December 28, 1856 – died February 3, 1924
28th President of the United States, from 1913 to 1921
Leader of the Progressive Movement
President of Princeton University from 1902 to 1910
Governor of New Jersey from 1911 to 1913

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Friday, 17 June 2011

Passing Judgement

Be careful how you judge people, most of all friends.
You don't sum up a man's life in one moment

~ Al Pacino


Alfredo James "Al" Pacino (born April 25, 1940) is an American film and stage actor and director. He is famous for playing mobsters, though he has also appeared several times on the other side of the law.

His role as Frank Slade in Scent of a Woman won him the Academy Award for Best Actor in 1992 after receiving seven previous Oscar nominations.

In addition to a career in film, he has also enjoyed a successful career on stage, picking up Tony Awards .

Wikipedia His love of Shakespeare led him to direct his first film with Looking for Richard, a part documentary on the play Richard III. Pacino has received numerous lifetime achievement awards, including one from the American Film Institute. He is a method actor, taught mainly by Lee Strasberg and Charlie Laughton at the Actors Studio in New York.

Although he has never married, Pacino has had several relationships with actresses and has three children.

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Thursday, 16 June 2011

Gandhi’s Top 10 Fundamentals for Changing the World

I went to see Dr. Wayne Dyer speak on 13th June and found so much familiar with this article, which was  first published at by Henrik Edberg

I repost it because the content is not only wise but extremely useful

Gandhi’s Top 10 Fundamentals for Changing the World

Gandhi’s Top 10 Fundamentals for Changing the World“You must not lose faith in humanity. Humanity is an ocean; if a few drops of the ocean are dirty, the ocean does not become dirty”

The difference between what we do and what we are capable of doing would suffice to solve most of the world’s problem

“If I had no sense of humour, I would long ago have committed suicide.”

Mahatma Gandhi needs no long introduction. Everyone knows about the man who lead the Indian people to independence from British rule in 1947.

So let’s just move on to some of my favourite tips from Mahatma Gandhi.

Change yourself

“You must be the change you want to see in the world”

“As human beings, our greatness lies not so much in being able to remake the world – that is the myth of the atomic age – as in being able to remake ourselves.”

If you change yourself you will change your world. If you change how you think then you will change how you feel and what actions you take. And so the world around you will change. Not only because you are now viewing your environment through new lenses of thoughts and emotions but also because the change within can allow you to take action in ways you wouldn’t have – or maybe even have thought about – while stuck in your old thought patterns.

And the problem with changing your outer world without changing yourself is that you will still be you when you reach that change you have strived for. You will still have your flaws, anger, negativity, self-sabotaging tendencies etc. intact.

And so in this new situation you will still not find what you hoped for since your mind is still seeping with that negative stuff. And if you get more without having some insight into and distance from your ego it may grow more powerful. Since your ego loves to divide things, to find enemies and to create separation it may start to try to create even more problems and conflicts in your life and world.

You are in control

“Nobody can hurt me without my permission”

What you feel and how you react to something is always up to you. There may be a “normal” or a common way to react to different things. But that’s mostly just all it is.

You can choose your own thoughts, reactions and emotions to pretty much everything. You don’t have to freak out, overreact of even react in a negative way. Perhaps not every time or instantly. Sometimes a knee-jerk reaction just goes off. Or an old thought habit kicks in.

And as you realize that no-one outside of yourself can actually control how you feel you can start to incorporate this thinking into your daily life and develop it as a thought habit. A habit that you can grow stronger and stronger over time. Doing this makes life a whole lot easier and more pleasurable.

Forgive and let it go

“The weak can never forgive. Forgiveness is the attribute of the strong”

“An eye for eye only ends up making the whole world blind”

Fighting evil with evil won’t help anyone. And as said in the previous tip, you always choose how to react to something. When you can incorporate such a thought habit more and more into your life then you can react in a way that is more useful to you and others.

You realize that forgiving and letting go of the past will do you and the people in your world a great service. And spending your time in some negative memory won’t help you after you have learned the lessons you can learn from that experience. You’ll probably just cause yourself more suffering and paralyze yourself from taking action in this present moment.

If you don’t forgive then you let the past and another person to control how you feel. By forgiving you release yourself from those bonds. And then you can focus totally on, for instance, the next point.

Without action you aren’t going anywhere

“An ounce of practice is worth more than tons of preaching”

Without taking action very little will be done. However, taking action can be hard and difficult. There can be much inner resistance.

And so you may resort to preaching, as Gandhi says. Or reading and studying endlessly. And feeling like you are moving forward. But getting little or no practical results in real life.

So, to really get where you want to go and to really understand yourself and your world you need to practice. Books can mostly just bring you knowledge. You have to take action and translate that knowledge into results and understanding.

You can check out a few effective tips to overcome this problem in How to Take More Action: 9 Powerful Tips. Or you can move on to the next point for more on the best tip for taking more action that I have found so far.

Take care of this moment

“I do not want to foresee the future. I am concerned with taking care of the present. God has given me no control over the moment following

The best way that I have found to overcome the inner resistance that often stops us from taking action is to stay in the present as much as possible and to be accepting.

Why? Well, when you are in the present moment you don’t worry about the next moment that you can’t control anyway. And the resistance to action that comes from you imagining negative future consequences – or reflecting on past failures – of your actions loses its power. And so it becomes easier to both take action and to keep your focus on this moment and perform better.

Have a look at 8 Ways to Return to the Present Moment for tips on how quickly step into the now. And remember that reconnecting with and staying in the now is a mental habit – a sort of muscle – that you grow. Over time it becomes more powerful and makes it easier to slip into the present moment.

Everyone is human

“I claim to be a simple individual liable to err like any other fellow mortal. I own, however, that I have humility enough to confess my errors and to retrace my steps”

“It is unwise to be too sure of one’s own wisdom. It is healthy to be reminded that the strongest might weaken and the wisest
might err”

When you start to make myths out of people – even though they may have produced extraordinary results – you run the risk of becoming disconnected from them. You can start to feel like you could never achieve similar things that they did because they are so very different. So it’s important to keep in mind that everyone is just a human being no matter who they are.

And I think it’s important to remember that we are all human and prone to make mistakes. Holding people to unreasonable standards will only create more unnecessary conflicts in your world and negativity within you.

It’s also important to remember this to avoid falling into the pretty useless habit of beating yourself up over mistakes that you have made. And instead be able to see with clarity where you went wrong and what you can learn from your mistake. And then try again.


“First they ignore you, then they laugh at you, then they fight you, then you win”

Be persistent. In time the opposition around you will fade and fall away. And your inner resistance and self-sabotaging tendencies that want to hold you back and keep you like you have always been will grow weaker.

Find what you really like to do. Then you’ll find the inner motivation to keep going, going and going. You can also find a lot of useful tips on how keep your motivation up in How to Get Out of a Motivational Slump and 25 Simple Ways to Motivate Yourself.

One reason Gandhi was so successful with his method of non-violence was because he and his followers were so persistent. They just didn’t give up.

Success or victory will seldom come as quickly as you would have liked it to. I think one of the reasons people don’t get what they want is simply because they give up too soon. The time they think an achievement will require isn’t the same amount of time it usually takes to achieve that goal. This faulty belief partly comes from the world we live in. A world full of magic pill solutions where advertising continually promises us that we can lose a lot of weight or earn a ton of money in just 30 days. You can read more about this in One Big Mistake a Whole Lot of People Make.

Finally, one useful tip to keep your persistence going is to listen to Gandhi’s third quote in this article and keep a sense of humor. It can lighten things up at the toughest of times.

See the good in people and help them

“I look only to the good qualities of men. Not being faultless myself, I won’t presume to probe into the faults of others

“Man becomes great exactly in the degree in which he works for the welfare of his fellow-men.”

“I suppose leadership at one time meant muscles; but today it means getting along with people

There is pretty much always something good in people. And things that may not be so good. But you can choose what things to focus on. And if you want improvement then focusing on the good in people is a useful choice. It also makes life easier for you as your world and relationships become more pleasant and positive.

And when you see the good in people it becomes easier to motivate yourself to be of service to them. By being of service to other people, by giving them value you not only make their lives better. Over time you tend to get what you give. And the people you help may feel more inclined to help other people. And so you, together, create an upward spiral of positive change that grows and becomes stronger.

By strengthening your social skills you can become a more influential person and make this upward spiral even stronger. A few articles that may provide you with useful advice in that department are Do You Make These 10 Mistakes in a Conversation? and Dale Carnegie’s Top 10 Tips for Improving Your Social Skills. Or you can just move on to the next tip.

Be congruent, be authentic, be your true self

Happiness is when what you think, what you say, and what you do are in harmony

“Always aim at complete harmony of thought and word and deed. Always aim at purifying your thoughts and everything will be well.”

I think that one of the best tips for improving your social skills is to behave in a congruent manner and communicate in an authentic way. People seem to really like authentic communication. And there is much inner enjoyment to be found when your thoughts, words and actions are aligned. You feel powerful and good about yourself.

When words and thoughts are aligned then that shows through in your communication. Because now you have your voice tonality and body language – some say they are over 90 percent of communication – in alignment with your words.

With these channels in alignment people tend to really listen to what you’re saying. You are communicating without incongruency, mixed messages or perhaps a sort of phoniness.

Also, if your actions aren’t in alignment with what you’re communicating then you start to hurt your own belief in what you can do. And other people’s belief in you too.

Continue to grow and evolve

Constant development is the law of life, and a man who always tries to maintain his dogmas in order to appear consistent drives himself into a false position”

You can pretty much always improve your skills, habits or re-evaluate your evaluations. You can gain deeper understanding of yourself and the world.

Sure, you may look inconsistent or like you don’t know what you are doing from time to time. You may have trouble to act congruently or to communicate authentically. But if you don’t then you will, as Gandhi says, drive yourself into a false position. A place where you try to uphold or cling to your old views to appear consistent while you realise within that something is wrong. It’s not a fun place to be. To choose to grow and evolve is a happier and more useful path to take.

Henrik Edberg

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Tuesday, 14 June 2011

Dangerous Transport?

 “The horse is dangerous at both ends and uncomfortable in the middle”

~ Ian Fleming.

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Sunday, 12 June 2011

Friday, 10 June 2011

The Principles of Conversational Hypnosis

Most people vividly remember the scene in Star Wars when Obi Wan Kenobi looks into the eyes of a guard and convinces him that the three wanted fugitives right in front of him are not the people he is looking for. Wouldn't it be great to have similar influence over people? The term conversational hypnosis suggests that we can.

Of course, conversational hypnosis is not as simple as it sounds. Rather, it is a series of well-choreographed strategies and manipulations that may bring others around to your point of view.

The principles of conversational hypnosis were first conceived by the great hypnotist and psychotherapist Milton Erickson. Erickson believed that trance states were not rare occurrences that had to be elaborately induced. He believed people slip into trance states several times a day, for instance, when they are waiting for a bus or concentrating very hard on something they are reading.

Erickson also theorized that directly trying to induce a trance state in someone or trying to give them direct suggestions might lead to resistance. He preferred to use rapport, indirect suggestions, and confusion to induce trance states and influence compliance.


The first step in conversational hypnosis is creating a rapport with the subject. This means agreeing with what they have to say. For instance, if the subject says, "There's no way out of this," the proper response is, "You're right. There's no way out."


The next step in conversational hypnosis is to confuse the issue. Sometimes a simple question works. "But even if there is no way out, can you be absolutely sure that a solution won't pop into your mind in the next minute or so?"

Another technique used to create confusion in conversational hypnosis is to encourage resistance, perhaps by saying, "No one could solve that problem. It's simply too complex. There's absolutely no way out. You don't have a chance..." At some point, the subject will probably start arguing with you that the problem is not so unsolvable after all!

Still another confusion technique is to suggest that the subject do more of something that isn't working. For instance, an obese subject might be encouraged to gain weight.


The final step in conversational hypnosis is to make an indirect suggestion such as, "You're feeling a bit less hopeless now, aren't you?" or "I don't know why, but it seems to me you look more optimistic than you did a few minutes ago."

Needless to say, conversational hypnosis is no easy feat, and it is best left to professionals.

If you would like to know more about conversational hypnosis, several websites offer online courses on the topic. You might also try reading a clinical biography of Milton Erickson.

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Wednesday, 8 June 2011

Middle Age Texting Codes

As a Bus Pass holder who receives a heating allowance each winter, this is perhaps not funny at all – Yeah Right!

From my friend Mark Sherwood’s page on Facebook

ATD -at the doctor
BFF -best friend fell
BTW -bring the wheelchair
BYOT -bring your own teeth
FWIW -forgot where I was
GGPBL -gotta go, pacemaker battery low
GHA -got heartburn again
IMHO -is my hearing aid on?
LMDO -laughing my dentures out
OMMR -on my massage recliner
ROFLACGU -rolling on floor laughing and can't get up
TTYL -talk to you louder!


Monday, 6 June 2011

The Benefit Seed


“Every adversity, every failure, every heartache carries with it the seed on an equal or greater benefit”

~ Napoleon Hill

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Saturday, 4 June 2011

Awareness without action

I’ve been an admirer of Phil McGraw’s quotes for quite some time and when I am coaching I love asking one particular question of his:

How’s that working for you?”

Here is another quote that I enjoy:

“Awareness without action is worthless”

Dr. Phil McGraw


Following on from a recent blog post "What would you like to procrastinate about this week?" , I observe more and more how people devise (perfect) strategies that keep them stuck. They are extremely busy and mostly stressed or tired not achieving their dreams.

The interesting thing about Phil McGraw’s quote is that many people now work on their awareness but for what purpose?

In my trade, expanded awareness is the name of the game.

When I get to coach or even hypnotise my clients I have to be unconsciously aware of their state, their physiology and the language they are using and of anything else that comes my way BUT if no action follows then all that has taken place is a conversation.

So I am always looking for my clients to take action as soon as possible. The sooner the better.



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Thursday, 2 June 2011

With friends like these, who needs enemies?

Ariel (the mermaid) was in trouble again. Her sisters were complaining to King Neptune that she didn't want to dress properly, as did the other mermaids. Instead of wearing anemones to obscure her breasts, she would stick long fronds of seaweed in her hair.

Obviously these fronds did not always do their job because they tend to move with the flow, and this really annoyed her sisters.

King Neptune, being a strict father, admonished his daughter and insisted she discards the seaweed and wear her anemones like a dutiful daughter should.

"But father," Ariel argued, "with fronds like these, who needs anemones?"

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