I met up with a client yesterday. She was at the appointed spot ahead of time but the interesting thing was that I knew she was there five minutes before I arrived. I just felt her presence.
I remember watching a Dr Phil show where he was discussing the subject of Continual Lateness. One guy was talking about how he even gets up “10 minutes earlier to make sure that I am not late and I am still late!”
Dr Phil responded along the lines of “You are always late because you are arrogant”. I thought that interesting and I understand it but what occurred to me yesterday is that Fear may have the greater part to play in it.
Arrogance is the result of Fear. Maybe that is my assumption but I trust my gut so I know it is true.
I had a friend who asked me help her with her preparations for a significant court appearance. I was to meet her at a law practice at a given time and every occasion she was late – very late! AND there was always a justifiable reason. (But the law of averages tell you that is not possible)
Even when it came to the big day, she arrived 90 minutes late. Was that arrogance or was she confronted?
Clearly these are programmes that we run, we develop routines and habits to support how we manage time and commitments.
I have another friend who is always ahead of time. I like that. He, much as my client yesterday, has gifted me with time to spare.
Its also great because it is one less thing to be concerned about, by which I mean, one less thing to process and …
…. I love having space in my brain , I value it!
I don’t like having others take up my brain space, without my permission.
For me, having Brain Space is more space in which I can create and have great thoughts.
Thoughts are the real juice of life. They are the proof that we are alive. The source of our conscious reality. The source of pleasure and pain.
Byron Katie is one lady in particular who is a pleasure to watch whilst she thinks. You see it happen and you see the pleasure and it exudes from her and I get it!
That’s a gift!
So I guess compassion is the order of the day.
When people are continually late, they are probably fearful and may be avoiding or hiding it. They are probably less organised and that caused by lack of brain space
they may be blatantly arrogant and that takes planning AND BRAIN SPACE
My friend lost her appeal, by the way. I guess that was lack of space.
Catcha! I’m off to think pleasurable thoughts, Just gotta get me some space.
BRING IT ON!